Balance – striving for equilibrium

Do we every really have balance in our lives? Some might, so maybe I should rephrase that. Do I ever have balance in my life? No. I prefer to say I have waves or seasons. Times where I focus more on one aspect and less on another.

When I got a puppy, she was my priority for months. Training her, bonding with her, loving her 🙂 

When I wanted my redemption Boston Qualifier, I put training above everything else.

How do you do it all? I am sure you are involved of so many things just like myself, and you put a part of yourself in it all, but how do you manage without spreading yourself too thin? Or losing time for yourself.

Let’s backup and I will give you a little more insight into my life. I tend to try to keep most details off the internet, but here is a little something.

As you know I am 26 years old.

I live in New England.

I have a year and a half old chocolate lab, who is crazy…CRAZY ADORABLE.

I work at a tech company on the predictive analytics team as a data architect (from 8am-5pm)

I also help manage and recruit for our college hire and intern programs (in my “spare” time).

I volunteer as a coach for Girls on the Run.

I started my own coaching business and create plans for people at night or on weekends.

I want to expand my business more but lately I am wondering if I have the time and capacity.

Oh yeah and I run as well. I have big goals for myself and as you all know its not just about running, its about strength training, yoga, eating right, foam rolling, sleeping enough. All of those things factor into those running dreams you have. If you love it, you do it 🙂

I also have other hobbies, surprisingly! I love to read, I love yoga, I used to knit until I no longer had time. I love to try new restaurants and breweries. I love to explore and travel.

To some it might not seem like I do that much, I know I don’t have kids so power to everyone who does, you are all rockstars. However, lately I have been struggling to find a sweet spot (just like with mileage). How much is too much? I tend to take on a lot, so currently I have been having guilt. Whether it’s guilt for sleeping in and not knowing when to get my run in during the day. Guilt for working 8-5, running before work and not having time for my pup. Guilt for working on coaching after work so my boyfriend has to cook dinner AGAIN. Guilt for not having time to expand my coaching business and build new ideas like I want to. Guilt, guilt, guilt.

New years resolution, lose the guilt. Do what I can and own it.

Steps I take to stay on track.

  1. Prioritize
  2. Plan out my day and week (meals, workouts, my pup’s schedule)
  3. set my early morning wake up
  4. Lay out my running or gym clothes the night before
  5. Leave work at work, when I am home, I am home. It can wait until tomorrow.
  6. Have a plan for my pup, so one way or another she has a good day whether it is with me or not
  7. Remind myself the importance of recovery and rest (in sports and work)
  8. Step back and look at the bigger picture, what am I working towards? what are my goals? what is important to get there?

With everything I am a part of, I strive to do well, but sometimes I do some aspects better than others. I remind myself that this is normal. Sometimes I might be a better runner and sometimes I might be a better coach. Other time I might be better at my data architect job than my recruiting role. It depends on the season, it depends on the current priority. Regardless, when I get stressed out and feel overwhelmed I force myself to step back and make myself answer the question why? Why am I doing this? Is this important to me? Do I love it? If the answer is yes, then I know I will find a way, if I am unsure then maybe it is something to reconsider.

 

This also might explain why I haven’t posted a blog in over a month!

4 thoughts on “Balance – striving for equilibrium

  1. I often have guilt regarding my dog, Sweet Pea. I work full time, try to get my run/gym time in, and next month I am going back to school. How will I have time for her? What kind of life does she have, sitting at home all day…and now, a few nights a week? It breaks my heart, but thankfully I have a BF who is willing to help with her some. But it still is hard, but we have lives we have to lead too!

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  2. This is so good! I feel guilty sometimes while training for a race because that means no late nights with friends & no family time on Saturday mornings. It’s definitely all about balance and learning to let go sometimes. Thanks for sharing!

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